Back to School Brings Extra Challenges for Sandwich Generation Caregivers

Alzheimer's offers five tips for balancing children and a parent with dementia

As families prepare for the back-to-school season, many parents are juggling supply lists, extracurricular schedules, and earlier bedtimes. But for sandwich generation caregivers—those caring for both children and an aging parent—the transition to the school year brings added layers of responsibility and stress.

National surveys estimate there are 11 million sandwich generation caregivers in the U.S., including about 2.2 million caring for someone with Alzheimer’s. With Baby Boomers living longer and more families facing dementia, this number is expected to grow.

The dual role takes a toll. Of the more than 11 million unpaid Alzheimer’s caregivers nationwide and 266,500 in Illinois alone About one-third report declining health due to caregiving, while more than half say their work life is affected by tardiness or absences. Many are forced to scale back at work, while children in the home often assume added responsibilities.

“Caregiving, particularly when you are caring for a loved one with dementia and children at home, can be overwhelming,” said Delia Jervier, Executive Director of the Alzheimer’s Association Illinois Chapter. “It is important to know that high levels of stress can be harmful to all family members.”

Despite the challenges, experts say it is possible for sandwich generation caregivers to balance their responsibilities while protecting their own well-being. The Alzheimer’s Association offers these five tips:

1. Take Care of Yourself Caregivers often neglect their own health, but eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest are essential. Even 30 minutes a day spent reading, exercising, or relaxing can help reduce stress. The Alzheimer’s Association provides resources to help caregivers recognize and relieve stress.

2. Maintain Good Communication Feelings of guilt are common when caregiving duties interfere with family time. Talk openly with your spouse, children, and loved ones about the demands you face and enlist their support. A 2017 Alzheimer’s Association survey found that 91% of Americans believe it “takes a village” to care for someone with Alzheimer’s, yet many caregivers hesitate to ask for help.

3. Seek Support The Alzheimer’s Association offers resources to ease caregiving, including adult day programs, in-home assistance, and meal delivery. Caregivers can explore local options through the online Community Resource Finder and access training and free workshops through the Alzheimer’s and Dementia Caregiver Center.

4. Talk to Your EmployerMany companies now offer flexible schedules or telecommuting options. A 2023 AARP report found that 45% of employed caregivers reported such workplace accommodations. Discussing possible adjustments with your employer may help you balance work and caregiving demands.

5. Know You’re Doing Your BestCaregivers often feel guilt for not being able to “do it all.” Focus on priorities, delegate when possible, and remind yourself that the care you provide makes a difference. For additional encouragement, join ALZConnected, the Association’s online caregiver community.

To learn more about Alzheimer’s disease, caregiving resources, and local support services, visit alz.org/Illinois or call the 24/7 Helpline at 800.272.3900.